Not everybody can do that as I sadly witnessed. Some people come home and reflect all the daily stress and snap up the people around them. The children who are waiting at home, missing that person the whole day is anxious to see this magical moment when their eyes exchange gazes and letting each other know that nothing else matters at the moment. Thats why most children are experts about understanding whats in the grown ups mind from the first moment. A newborn baby will start to cry immediately, even though you try to smile and be kind: because your eyes dont light up.
On a theater stage, a good actor acts like it is for the first time, even tough he performs 3-4 nights per week, twice each night, for him everything around the stage including the audience, the people in the backstage, all decorations which arent on stage disappears. The moment they reach to this stage may stretch like forever, because they arent in the time realm anymore. They dont think about how many minutes left to the end of the play so they can go home. They dont think about their bills or personal problems. Thats a magical slice of time which benefits them also, as much as it benefits the audience. Whoever can conquer this, is really a good actor.
An athlete who can reach to that kind of awareness feels the same way. Other than the path she runs on, everything else disappears.
While she is concentrating, she can feel her own heartbeats, she can feel every breath she takes in and out, and she doesnt pay attention to the other athletes, doesnt look right or left to see who is around her, who is getting close. She just focuses on the path and final, and she wins. Thats the best athlete. Everybody has the capacity to concentrate like that. Unfortunately many things become obstacle. Like the fear of loosing, if loved ones are watching; how they will feel about them if they loose, if they are prepared enough or not, many other problems in the mind gets in the way. Its possible to be successful in anything unless the person becomes one with the goal and doesnt let anything to get in the way.
A person who is successful; focuses on the goal and creates harmony on the way. There would be no distraction. Nobody who is trying to discourage the person can succeed because the person just believes that he will reach his goal. Like that wonderful person once told his family and friends that he would sell books on the Internet. Everyone laughed at him. They told him that nobody would buy books on line. He laughed them back, because he was so determined to reach his goal, he knew that he would be successful. And he did eventually. He didnt need approval or support of many people. He just knew.
Years ago I went to Italy. I decided to go and just did it without hesitation. I packed light and went to the airport in a very short time. I knew that it was time for world cups soccer championship and I knew that I would be able to see one soccer game. When I arrived to Torn, I went to the stadium. It was very crowded. I asked for a ticket; and they laughed at me saying; The tickets are sold out. There is no way to find a ticket. I wasnt ready to give up yet. I said; I flew from Istanbul to Rome. Then I took the train to Pizza, and to Venice; From Venice to Torn. I am not leaving without seeing the game. Finally a security guard asked me to wait a few minutes. When she came back, she was holding a ticket for me in her hands. I asked how much it was. She told me that it was complimentary. I had a great time watching Brasilia vs. Costa Rica soccer game. That was a simple example that we should pursue anything we really want with determination and patience.
What makes sense to you in your life? Whatever it is, it sure is different individually. Think about it. If the path you are walking on is the path you are sure of; no matter what everyone says, listen to your common sense. The rules are simple; dont hurt anyone or yourself while you are on your path. And dont walk away people who are hurt because of you and please dont deny it. As long as you are on the right path; youll be happy most of the time. You got the secret yourself. No one else, even your parents or partners can choose it for you or can lead you in that direction. You know it and no one else