You need to open your hearth in order to accept the other person without judgment. The differences and imperfections you see in each other is actually being created in your own mind because own your own values. The happy people dont exaggerate those or accept them and see the bigger picture they create together. And thats like serendipity. Finding out a valuable quality in each other and bringing out makes the picture of your life so beautiful.

Everybody has incredible talents, qualities, kindness, beauty inside if you can see and bring it out. If you dont do that, you just miss to see the beauty of it to enjoy. You life wont change in principles, but the moment will slip away unnoticed, unexplored. Those moments make a bigger difference in the quality of your life than success, achievement or gains. Its not about being sensitive or its not about feelings. Its directly about the meaning of life. If you are asking the question; why; you need to see things clearly to receive the answers. For that, every moment, you can see the miracles of life. Those miracles are everywhere. They are in the purple wild flowers which bloom in the snow on the mountains, they are in the hundreds of ladybugs Ive tried not to step on all over the streets in Hungary-Szeged one summer, they are in the smile of a baby or in the eye of a person replying your kindness, they are in the fireflies we have seen in a little village in Istanbul; covering the pine trees at night like Christmas trees.

There is miracles everyday in your life. Its possible to see them only when you become still one moment and listen, when you live in the present. They are in the voice of a singer, in the waves of the ocean, in every sunrise and sunset, in every breath you inhale.

                               Without space and time, there would be chaos. Yet many people try to reach to a moment where space and time simply dont exist. They are attracted to that phenomenon. Without time and space, the memories simply wouldnt exist, there would be chaos. Space and time is a part of timeless, space less existence. They can only exist with the other. Thats why a drug user or alcoholic disappears in a timeless, space less realm. Since there cant be memory of those moments clearly, it tends to repeat itself unknowingly why. The truth is it would only be possible to experience with someone who is sober, has experience and knowledge to go to that realm and to come back unshaken, unharmed. Because that person would know when to pull you back so that you wouldnt get lost. Therefore; addictions are like a bottomless pit, a chaotic wandering in the realm where you can resolve your past or get lost in the darkest corners of your brain.

For those people to return back to time and space becomes a progressively boring process; because there is no connection, no memory exchange in order, therefore, no painful memories seem to be resolved, continues to in its dimension chaotically, always there to give pain to the person over and over. During this process, the person uses the substance again, mostly isolated, even if in a crowd. Nobody really knows the dimension the person is really in. As a matter of fact, even the person is in a group of people who use the substance, every one of them finds a different frequency; therefore they are isolated completely in their chaotic equilibrium.

Lets try to find out more about this by the help of physics. Space and time is very similar to atomic nuclei. It has a strong effect on any proton or neutron. They try to be far away but the force of space and time is much stronger so they cant help but returning to the bounding of space and time. Space and time seems to disappear when someone is isolated, in solitude, by choice or as a result of chain of events. At that moment, there is either hopelessness or not needing hope and looking to everything from a different perspective. The person who goes through that is not the same anymore. In a persons life; this kind of solitude becomes necessary in certain conditions. If there is no possibility to create that solitude and space, the results can lead to addictions.