If you dont live the moment; your past is always there as a memory and youll have a future with ups and downs but because of not being able to connect them with the now ; bridge; many things wont make sense to you. To be able to understand what happened in your past; you really need to dive intensely to now . Youll receive clues, flashes after a while, showing you the meaning of existence. The connections between events, people and how theyre meant to happen: even though some of them were painful will become clear to you. Youll be able to draw a big picture in your life instead of whining while holding a piece of puzzle in your hand trying to figure out where it fits.

Its quite possible that you cant figure out that puzzle piece in your hand from the past because at the time; you werent living in the moment, while trying to escape from the reality, you were missing the point. You were missing the message the event or the person was giving to you. Many painful events you have lived in the past had some clues before they happened. You had been shown different paths to choose; you simply didnt get them because you werent living in the moment to see the exit out of a relationship or a job which wasnt suitable for you. There were signs all around you or people trying to help you to come to the moment and think it over.

All you did was to drain the energy out of them, complaining about how you became a victim. You used that energy to keep living in the situation which gave you pain. If you have lived in the moment; in the now, those signs would be clear to you. Life is much simpler than you think it is. Many questions in your head have answers at the very same moment you ask them. All it takes is to collect your energy to use all for the moment. Every painful situation or wrong choice gets in the way all along and becomes an obstacle, because you ignore or deny the reality. Once you accept and surrender; it magically loses its strength. The memory is still there, but you can have the power to change what it means to you right now . You start seeing the benefits of that terrible thing turning something positive in your life. Its not being optimistic, its how all the events unfold. They flow from negative to positive in perfect harmony. It just has its own time like a baby being born. You can pressure them, you cant change them; but your way of looking, understanding, getting a meaning out of it is extremely flexible. And for that, you have the power. If someone doesnt recognize that power, he is not actually strong or powerful, even if he owns half of the world or is very famous. He just doesnt have the ability to make sense out of even positive things, because he is anxious to reach the next exhilarating feeling he will get out of a successful event or gain. So thats how the moment simply slips away. Real happiness is definitely not an illusion, its clear, enlightening, its incredibly perfect.

To reach that perfect moment; you need to accept all the imperfections in yourself and the events and the people completing the picture. If you expect everything to be in order and perfect, you are most likely to hurt others in order to reach that perfection. In the end; youll feel satisfied, but since you made the negative foot prints on the way, in the whole picture, it wont give you the taste of perfect happiness. While you are creating perfect ness in every way for your own world, you need to understand that others may not have the same principles or rules for perfection in their lives. Thats why you can only find happiness if you accept all the imperfections and when they complete the big picture, they simply fit to make a perfect bigger picture.

In relationships thats an important factor couples need to keep always in mind. Whats right for you may not be the same for your partner. And conflicts easily appear out of the blue. If you refuse to accept your partner or refuse to compromise; either of you can be miserable.

If you try to change a person deliberately, the person will feel the pressure and wont be happy. So just like your right side of the brain; the people in your life dont need the pressure to change.